Tuesday, October 25, 2011

When you think they are not listening.... they are...


Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.     Ephesians 6:4

                                                      
                                      
How do you teach young boys and girls how to interact with each other as young ladies and gentlemen?
When children do not have the necessary experience and tools, they interact with each other in a manner that is not acceptable and could lead to inappropriate behavior.  We cannot expect children to learn social skills through the process of osmosis.  Examine the information that is being processed daily in our children’s lives.

The music, the television, the computer and social events as well as the adults and friends that they interact will on a daily routine, all influence and tell our children what our expectations are for our social interaction.
To assist in training and example, guard the music that your children listen to. 
·         Listen to the lyrics and investigate the band’s message and intent.  Do they have the image that you would like for your child to emulate?
·         What is the message that is given on the television shows and videos that your child watches? The day that a cartoon is a safe show is over… the day that specific networks are family friendly is the past. Watch television with your child. Review the programs. With DVR, DVD and other technology acronyms available it is so much easier to control what is going into the mind and heart.
·         Computer…. That is a whole big world. Parental locks, limits and supervision is all that I am going to say about that…
·         Friends… know the family. Invite the child to your home for a “get to know them” time. Speak with their parents. Make your home the gathering place for your child’s activities. If your home is the fun house for everyone to hang out at… what a compliment and you get to stay in on the action and choices.
·         Adults… always remember that you are setting the bar, even at a young age before the first birthday…. Your words and actions become the mortification to “not be like their parents” or to “be like their parents”.    Set the bar high… talk to your children concerning their choices and your expectations.

 When you think that they are not listening…… they are….. When you think that they are not watching……. they are…..
Please remember…. We need to…..
Teach your DAUGHTERS the difference between a man who …..
FLATTERS her and a man that COMPLIMENTS her.
 A man who SPENDS MONEY on her and a man that INVESTS in her.
 A man who views her as PROPERTY and a man who views her PROPERLY.
A man who LUSTS after her and a man who LOVES  her.
A man who believes HE is GOD'S GIFT TO WOMEN and a man who remembers a WOMAN is GOD'S GIFT TO MAN.
 And then TEACH your SONS to be that kind of man. ♥
Pray daily for guidance and support...... parenthood is the greatest and hardest full time job you can have...